Did you have consensual sex last night?
I know I've been away for a while and I kinda decided to stop blogging. This was mostly because I wasn't liking how I felt in the beauty blogging world but I've just come to my senses that beauty is not the only type of blogging out there! I obviously knew this but never really gave much thought to it.
Today I want to speak about a really important topic that I just read up about out of curiosity. What is rape really? What counts as rape? Is there a fine line between consensual and non-consensual sex?
I just felt like I need to give my views about this and it's not because I'm into women's rights but because this is not only for women but it's for men too! (And, painfully, children of cause). I also really wanted to get this out there and get more people to properly understand some things before they go out and have sex or make love.
Okay, here goes....
What is rape?
Rape is a type of sexual assault usually involving sexual intercourse or other forms of sexual penetration carried out against a person without that person's consent. The act may be carried out by physical force, coercion, abuse of authority, or against a person who is incapable of giving valid consent, such as one who is unconscious, incapacitated, has an intellectual disability or is below the legal age of consent. The term rape is sometimes used interchangeably with the term sexual assault.
See how the word "consensual" is used throughout? Yeah. This being said, consent doesn't have to be verbal. Someone can show that they do not give consent by body language too.
Rape can be either violent or non-violent. Non-violent rape is not often talked about and is just brushed over because we don't want to know that we were raped or someone that we know and love was raped (god forbids).
What counts as rape?
Now I know that the internet trolls would probably butcher this but we need to talk about this one.
We all know what violent rape is and this is often reported to authorities or spoken about.
Non-violent rape is when you persuade someone into having sex after knowing that they're not sure of doing it or clearly saying no but your horny damn ass sweet talks her into doing it. It's when you, unknowingly, force someone into a sex position that they are not comfortable in because this is your preference. It's when Becky wants to put her finger in your butt hole, but you don't want her to. It's when you're getting hurt whilst bending over and telling Kyle to switch positions but he doesn't want to because he is nearing climax. It's when Debra keeps asking you to have sex with her until you finally say yes. (Keep in mind that someone can genuinely want to change their mind but you have to stop asking and let them tell you). It's when Sara wants to handcuff you to the bed but you're not into it and you want her to stop but she doesn't. There are many other ways where rape could be non-violent but seem "consensual" just because we don't know much about it. It's when you shove a bit and say no but he is so handsome so you let him overpower you and seduce you because you can't think clearly since you're a little intoxicated.
You are allowed to say no after you've said yes. You are allowed to refuse sex after you've had sex with the same person before.
Is there a fine line between consensual and non-consensual sex?
No. If someone says no/stop or shows discomfort then it is your duty to ask them if they are okay and want to continue.
For guys
I know it may be a little difficult for some guys to get the just of consensual sex but just think of it as if it were a gay guy trying to get with you but you don't want to. Also if you're a gay guy and a girl forces herself onto you but you're not into it. Makes more sense now hey?
In conclusion
It's so easy to commit this crime and as a sexually active individual, you need to educate yourself on this.
I just hope that you haven't done anything of the sort to someone else and if you did, apologize to them however you will. Even if it is your Spouse. Sometimes it can seem normal or not like rape just because it's not violent or just because someone didn't say no but if someone shows signs of not being comfortable during a sexual act then you have to check with them and ask them if they're okay. This especially matters when you're near climax because we tend to push when we're near climax because of the pleasure and don't "think clearly". This is also why sex is so sacred. I think all of this shit is happening because we, as a society, started to take advantage of the procreation gift that GOD gave us.
Your body is a temple and you should always be the one in control of it unless you're into the whole domination thing and that gets you going but I guess that even domination has different levels of consensualness. Lol. That isn't a word.
Please don't let this deter you from having the most amazing sexual experience with your fully consenting partner!
Today I want to speak about a really important topic that I just read up about out of curiosity. What is rape really? What counts as rape? Is there a fine line between consensual and non-consensual sex?
I just felt like I need to give my views about this and it's not because I'm into women's rights but because this is not only for women but it's for men too! (And, painfully, children of cause). I also really wanted to get this out there and get more people to properly understand some things before they go out and have sex or make love.
Okay, here goes....
What is rape?
Rape is a type of sexual assault usually involving sexual intercourse or other forms of sexual penetration carried out against a person without that person's consent. The act may be carried out by physical force, coercion, abuse of authority, or against a person who is incapable of giving valid consent, such as one who is unconscious, incapacitated, has an intellectual disability or is below the legal age of consent. The term rape is sometimes used interchangeably with the term sexual assault.
See how the word "consensual" is used throughout? Yeah. This being said, consent doesn't have to be verbal. Someone can show that they do not give consent by body language too.
Rape can be either violent or non-violent. Non-violent rape is not often talked about and is just brushed over because we don't want to know that we were raped or someone that we know and love was raped (god forbids).
What counts as rape?
Now I know that the internet trolls would probably butcher this but we need to talk about this one.
We all know what violent rape is and this is often reported to authorities or spoken about.
Non-violent rape is when you persuade someone into having sex after knowing that they're not sure of doing it or clearly saying no but your horny damn ass sweet talks her into doing it. It's when you, unknowingly, force someone into a sex position that they are not comfortable in because this is your preference. It's when Becky wants to put her finger in your butt hole, but you don't want her to. It's when you're getting hurt whilst bending over and telling Kyle to switch positions but he doesn't want to because he is nearing climax. It's when Debra keeps asking you to have sex with her until you finally say yes. (Keep in mind that someone can genuinely want to change their mind but you have to stop asking and let them tell you). It's when Sara wants to handcuff you to the bed but you're not into it and you want her to stop but she doesn't. There are many other ways where rape could be non-violent but seem "consensual" just because we don't know much about it. It's when you shove a bit and say no but he is so handsome so you let him overpower you and seduce you because you can't think clearly since you're a little intoxicated.
You are allowed to say no after you've said yes. You are allowed to refuse sex after you've had sex with the same person before.
Is there a fine line between consensual and non-consensual sex?
No. If someone says no/stop or shows discomfort then it is your duty to ask them if they are okay and want to continue.
For guys
I know it may be a little difficult for some guys to get the just of consensual sex but just think of it as if it were a gay guy trying to get with you but you don't want to. Also if you're a gay guy and a girl forces herself onto you but you're not into it. Makes more sense now hey?
In conclusion
It's so easy to commit this crime and as a sexually active individual, you need to educate yourself on this.
I just hope that you haven't done anything of the sort to someone else and if you did, apologize to them however you will. Even if it is your Spouse. Sometimes it can seem normal or not like rape just because it's not violent or just because someone didn't say no but if someone shows signs of not being comfortable during a sexual act then you have to check with them and ask them if they're okay. This especially matters when you're near climax because we tend to push when we're near climax because of the pleasure and don't "think clearly". This is also why sex is so sacred. I think all of this shit is happening because we, as a society, started to take advantage of the procreation gift that GOD gave us.
Your body is a temple and you should always be the one in control of it unless you're into the whole domination thing and that gets you going but I guess that even domination has different levels of consensualness. Lol. That isn't a word.
Please don't let this deter you from having the most amazing sexual experience with your fully consenting partner!
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